Arrrrggghhh! You just simply cannot express a groan like I want to in words. So both Andrew and I have felt under a lot of stress during the past couple of days. He has a self prepared to-do list for the house that he wants to complete but doesn't feel like he has the time between callings, work and spending time with the family and I am getting cabin fever for staying in the house WAY to long, along with a personal issue I am emotionally vexed about and yesterday my Uncle passed unexpectedly. So with the combination of our two sour, overly sensitive moods and it being the weekend where we both a) have to work on stuff together, and b)want to spend quality time as a family -- the domestic atomic bomb has been created this morning in our house. Well probably nothing as devastating as that so much but it means that we have been biting at each other all day and then stopping, apologizing and realizing it is our stress that we are taking out on each other and then.... biting some more. We need a really really good date night idea. Something that will be something that will help Andrew feel relaxed a bit and me not to feel on the verge of tears anymore at least for a couple of hours. Any suggestions?
UPDATE: You guys have some of the coolest ideas for dates - we are totally going to use them. In the end we both decided to go to dinner together (of course with the kids since it was late notice) and then we went ice skating as a family. It was really fun and can I say POWER LEG WORKOUT - at least if you are with kids and having to hunch down and keep them steddy as they hold onto the yellow cone. - but it was fun and just what we needed. Thanks guys!
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Go to the temple. I know how stressful life can be. It is hard to balance everything! It really is. We all have to strugle with it. Sometimes I think if we weren't LDS we would have a lot more free time. At one point I was the YW pres and Chris was the EQ pres here in the ward at the same time! We never saw each other! But seriously as much as you want something fun, when I feel like I am so mad at the world, I know I need to go to the temple. I know it is hard to get there with it being far away (all though I can't remember how close you are to Columbus, we are 2.5-3 hours away). Anyway, remember it will be better soon! I promise:)
yeah that is a good suggestion, too bad it is already 5:21 at night and the temple here requires prior scheduling and is 2 hrs away. Gone are the days of lovely 5 min drives to the Provo Temple. Sigh....
Take a bath together!!! Read a book and the person who isn't reading massages! Play a silly game! Just do anything but all the things you have been worying about. So we just moved from Clevland- just 5 hours away!! What are you doing there?
Set a date and time for your date first. Then play this game. Discuss that you will each be posting notes in discrete places. It is each of your jobs to find all notes. The notes have to be limited to saying something you really appreciate about the other person, the blessings that have come into your life because of them, talents you see, I love yous, jokes, whatever, as long as it is positive and uplifting. On your date you tally up who found all of the notes the other has left. Then take time to read them out loud to each other. Does it sound artificial? Maybe, but how real are your angry feelings for each other in expressing your deepest feelings for each other. It just takes more effort to look at and express the positive. That is all.
Are you kidding me? Tammy writes on your blog? you've had a blog for a total for 2 days... What the bonk. Anyway, my idea: I've got nothing. What are date nights? I don't get those unless we go visit either parents and they watch the girls. But you could go out in the FOREST in your back yard, and carve your names into a tree with a heart, and just talk. Who knows... I'm a bad one to give advice on date nights.
Go snowshoeing! Since you would probably have to rent the snow shoes and get a babysitter you might not be able to do it tonight, but it feels SO good to get outdoors, get some exercise and just have some good quiet time to talk. Or watch Masterpiece Theater's version of Jane Eyre. It is a good movie and it really helped me to realize how blessed my life is despite the difficulties. I need that reminder occasionally! Good luck and have fun!
We have passive-aggressive arguments through the dog and end up laughing within 10 minutes EVERY SINGLE TIME. Seriously, shortest arguments ever.
"Willie, will you please tell your father that if he leaves his tupperware sealed up with food still inside to ferment and for mommy to find ONE MORE TIME that she is probably going to let you take the remote control to your crate and chew it up."
"Will, tell your mother that if there weren't ALWAYS clean dishes in the dishwasher to unload, that I would put the tupperware in there. And since she's home before me it's probably her job."
"Willie, tell your dad that I have to spend 2-3 hours a day shopping and feeding him, because without me and chipotle he'd starve to death, and that if he doesn't want to turn into a single guy without ANYTHING to put into his tupperwares in the first place, he'd better unload the dishwasher his D*MN SELF."
At this point, he is laughing and unloading the dishwasher. I don't know why it works.
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